Do you ever read something on the internet and just sigh? I have been doing that a lot lately. It is my own fault, really. I stubbornly refuse to let go of my childhood friends who, in turn, never broke free from the herd they were raised in. Don’t get me wrong, some of them are very good people. They just have this tendency to believe anything, no matter how ludicrous, as long as it comes from church/political party approved channels. Now this wouldn’t be bad if the leaders in question had a shred of integrity or, in some...

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The time has come to talk of many things. Most of them no less ridiculous than the poem The Walrus and the Carpenter talks about. But, fantastically, things people take seriously. Things people believe in. Things people inflict on their children out of some misguided attempt to give those kids an edge. This post started a few weeks ago when I ran across a Facebook snark fest about something called Lotus birth.  The “lotus” part of that probably already has you muttering about new age nonsense. I know it did that to me. I wasn’t, however, wholly prepared for...

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I had an epiphany the other day. Don’t laugh. Generally I am too cynical for this kind of epiphany. The kind that closes a circle and explains something to me that is good. It started with a quote. “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit your own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” -Thomas Merton The person that shared this quote is my oldest friend. In the ensuing conversation, I realized something. She knew this truth as a child....

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This has been a bad week and it is only Wednesday. Bill infected me with some virulent strain of creeping crud which hit with a vengeance on Sunday night. So I have spent the last couple of days using up every tissue in the house and feeling like someone ran a bull dozer over me when I wasn’t sleeping. Bad enough, right? Earlier this morning he woke me from my vivid NyQuil dreams to tell me that a young friend of mine had a miscarriage. I mumbled something about that being too bad and went back to sleep. 15...

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One more graduation down. Wooo! I’m not really a wooo girl but…graduating them gets me one step closer to being able to run around the house in my underwear without causing anyone a need for therapy. It is worth a wooo. Schuyler Boo (what we call him) graduated from high school last night. It was relatively pain free. Unlike his 8th grade graduation which I also blogged about. It did have its moments, however. Such as the main speechifier. She informed me that I should “disconnect” and be “present in the moment” and refrain from “technological internet narcissism”. Ummmm…....

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Here it is. In all its glory. He turned out rather nicely if I do say so myself.

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I have this friend who keeps claiming that they want people to be completely honest, everything on the table, transparent, even. What keeps running through my head is No, no you do not. My complete honesty will make you curl into a fetal position and shake. So stop asking for that. I’ve worked for years on training myself not to say what I was thinking. With mixed success. Because my default state? My default state is blunt and honest to the point of no mercy. I was born that way. Most kids are, but I have it in spades....

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